Irritability and aggression are those affects that always bring harm to people around, and mostly relatives and loved ones. It can be both physical and moral impact. Others suffer, and the person himself who does not know how to restrain himself suffers.
It is believed that aggressive behavior is more characteristic of men. This is not entirely true, aggression is different. Men are more inherent in direct aggression, expressed in physical actions. This is not necessarily beating anyone, it can be threats, screaming, sudden movements, destruction of objects. But there is also indirect, hidden, verbal aggression, which is more inherent in women (gossip, slander, slander, veiled humiliation).
Male irritability syndrome – a new diagnosis?
The topic of aggression, violence, intemperance in men has been very relevant lately. Recently, a term such as Male Irritability Syndrome (SMR) has appeared and is widely debated on the Internet .
There is no exact definition of this syndrome, just as it is not in the classification of diseases of the ICD. Probably, it was originally invented by the type of analogy with menopause in women: in men, also at a certain age (after 40 years), the production of sex hormone begins to decrease. And indeed during this period, changes in mood and behavior occur.
But if we now type in the search for “male irritability syndrome”, we can see that absolutely any episodes of “bad” male behavior at any age are dumped there, and all this is explained by testosterone.
On the one hand, it’s easier. On the other hand, it’s a shame for men. They are exposed as absolutely primitive creatures. Although our behavior originates from animal instincts, there are so many things that are layered on them: upbringing, culture, education, awareness of our role in society, the ability to control ourselves. In addition, our nervous system is a very complex thing, and is regulated not only by testosterone.
In the end, there are various diseases, both somatic and mental, which need to be treated, and not hide behind a nonexistent syndrome.
The most likely causes of male irritability
Absolutely all the causes of irritability and aggression in men can not be analyzed in one article. We indicate the most likely causes and the most general recommendations.
Natural type of temperament
Everyone knows four types of temperament: phlegmatic, sanguine, melancholic and choleric. The most excitable type is, of course, choleric. He is quick-tempered and impulsive, reacts to the situation very quickly, without thinking, sometimes quite violently.
At the same time, melancholy can be annoying with fuss and the need to make quick decisions.
What to do?
Natural temperament cannot be changed, the solution here is only in self-education. Autotraining, yoga, various relaxation methods will help in this. Very effective advice: if you want to “explode,” take a deep breath and count to 10.
Physiological hormonal disorders
The level of male sex hormone really affects mental stability. Testosterone is a hormone that makes a man a man: it provides the formation of genital organs, secondary sexual characteristics, stimulates muscle growth, sexual arousal, and sperm production.
Testosterone levels also affect mental processes in the brain. With a decrease in testosterone, a man becomes irritable, quickly gets tired, outbreaks of anger are possible. Various factors influence the level of testosterone production, its wide fluctuations during the day are known.
Its natural decrease is noted during the period of andropause (age after 40-45 years). In addition to changes in behavior, other signs will be noticeable: weight gain, decreased sex drive, decreased muscle strength.
What to do?
Testosterone treatment is prescribed only in severe cases. And so it is possible to establish its production by non-drug methods. The main thing is to switch to an absolutely healthy lifestyle with sufficient physical activity, eliminating bad habits. Review your medications, maybe some of them affect testosterone production.
Biochemical changes in the brain
This is primarily a decrease in serotonin levels. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter. He is responsible for many processes in the body, including mood. It is known that with a bad mood, the level of serotonin is reduced, and with a good mood it is increased.
The mechanism of regulation of this hormone in the body is not fully understood. But two natural factors that increase the level of serotonin in the brain are reliably known: these are sunlight and carbohydrate foods. A man is angry when hungry – this is a lack of serotonin. Dependencies (nicotinic, alcoholic, narcotic) are also mainly serotonin.
In addition, you must strive for positive emotions. In the relationship “serotonin – mood” is not clear enough what is the cause and what is the result.
A prolonged and persistent decrease in serotonin levels in the brain can lead to depression. And this is an occasion to turn to a psychiatrist.
What to do?
No one measures serotonin levels routinely. Intuitively, you need to strive for those activities that will enhance your mood: sports, good film (comedy), favorite music, sex, communication with people who are pleasant to you. More sun walks, more light at all. Eat on time so that there is no severe hunger. Food should be rich in carbohydrates, but you need to remember that fast carbohydrates in large quantities can cause addiction to sweets. Alcohol is available in very moderate amounts.
We all know what stress is. For many, this is synonymous with change and concern. All that makes us worry is stress. At the same time, the level of stress hormones such as cortisol, catecholamines and others increases in the body. These are the hormones that historically made our body run and escape from danger.
Nowadays, stress is not hunger, cold or wild animals, you don’t need to run anywhere. Stress is overwork, it is public transport, traffic jams, inadequate bosses. Stress can also be attributed to the mismatch of our capabilities with our desires. For men, this is often the loss of their role as a “leader”, a breadwinner, failure in personal and intimate life.
What to do?
Stress can not be avoided at all. You need to learn how to remove constant internal irritation. This is rest, a good sleep, walks, sports, favorite music, light films, sex, hobbies. During the holidays it is better to leave, to change the situation.
Asthenia, irritable weakness syndrome
According to WHO forecasts, asthenia and depression will come in second place after cardiovascular disease by 2020. Irritable weakness syndrome is a special type of asthenia. It is characterized by a combination of increased excitability, irritability with weakness, fatigue. For such individuals, short outbursts of anger give way to a sharp exhaustion of emotions or tears, quickly flashed interest – apathy, a rapid start to activity – a sharp decline in performance.
Such people are incapable of prolonged stress, annoyed for a minor reason, touchy, picky. In addition to sudden mood swings, they also have somatic complaints: headache, heart pain, palpitations, sweating, and gastrointestinal upsets.
Asthenia is already a diagnosis, and this is a reason for treatment by a psychotherapist or psychiatrist.
Some diseases are accompanied by hormonal disorders and, as a result, increased irritability, irritability. Most often these are thyroid diseases, diabetes mellitus, infectious diseases, pituitary adenomas, adrenal glands.
Any pain in the body also does not give peace of mind. Taking some pain medications can lower testosterone production.
Therefore, if a man is not just irritable, but he has symptoms of a disease or pain, you need to be examined and treated.
In addition to asthenia, incontinence, increased irritability, aggressiveness can be symptoms of other mental or borderline diseases. We will not list them here, let’s just say: you don’t need to be afraid to turn to a psychotherapist or psychiatrist. If you realize that your condition does not quite fit into the framework of normal behavior and the people around you suffer, then in the language of psychiatrists “criticism is preserved” and all this can be corrected with special drugs (not necessarily antipsychotics).
Reason to contact specialists:
- a feeling of constant internal anxiety and tension;
- sleep disturbance;
- often arising desire to cause physical harm to someone (hit, beat);
- autonomic reactions (panic attacks);
- too long a period of depression;
- inability to do their usual work.
- If you feel that you have begun to “explode,” if you are told that you have become rude, intolerant, this is an occasion to think.
- The first thing to do is reconsider your lifestyle. If you are overworked, take a vacation.
- In all cases, it is useful to abandon bad habits.
- If you have some kind of disease that does not give you rest, it needs to be treated.
- Engage in self-education. Remember that to learn to “control yourself” is quite possible, there are many methods for this that are easy to find on the Internet.
- If you feel that you cannot handle it yourself, contact a specialist.